Farewell-Clovis Arrangement Center & Crematory

If you knew the deceased, attending the funeral is an opportunity for you to remember their life and pay your respects. If you did not know the deceased but are close to the grieving family, then it is a way for you to show your support to them. If you feel your presence will make the family of the deceased uncomfortable or if it is a private event, do not attend the funeral.

Don’t be afraid to keep it short and simple. “My thoughts are with you” and “My condolences to you and your family” are always safe bets. Often sharing fond memories of the deceased will help those grieving to remember happier times, and not just focus on how hard it is that their loved one is gone. Positive stories and accomplishments shared show the grieving family that their loss means something. When speaking, use the name of the person who passed. Not “your father” but rather “Your father Frank” was such an inspiration. Assure them that grieving is difficult. Avoid saying “they are in a better place.” They want their loved one here with them. Simply being present for those grieving a loss sends a message of support during their time of need. Never underestimate how much it means just being there for them. If you are unable to attend, a telephone call, a sympathy card, or any other form of communication assures those experiencing a loss that you care.

Historically, black is the traditional color of mourning, yet is not the only color you may choose. Grays and blues are also safe options. You should opt to something conservative, tasteful and subtle. A general practice is to stay away from decorative patterns or bright colors. Suits for men and dresses or suits for women are always appropriate. If you’re attending a celebration of life which may be held outdoors, attire doesn’t have to be quite as formal. Be cautious of being overly casual; avoid flip-flops, shorts and t-shirts.

Typically, the first and second rows of seats are reserved for close family and friends of the deceased. The remaining rows are for all other attendees. If you arrive late, it is a courteousy to sit in the back, so you do not disturb others. Once seated, it’s important to remain seated during the duration of the service.

A good practice is to arrive 10-20 minutes early to allow for time to interact with other guests. If you arrive late, use the side aisle to find a seat near the back; do not walk down the center aisle.

Yes, it is okay to bring children to a funeral, especially if they were close to the deceased or are interested in attending. Babies and toddlers are often left with a babysitter since they may require more attention and distract you from being mentally present at the service.

Yes. Direct cremation is on Farewell-Clovis Arrangement Center & Crematory's service list.

Farewell-Clovis Arrangement Center & Crematory lists these hours: 24 hours a day, 7 days a week: Available to assist; Clovis Arrangement Center & Crematory: By Appointment Only; Palm Bluffs: Appointment Recommended.

Its listed hours include 24 hours a day, 7 days a week: Available to assist.

Clovis Funeral Chapel & Cremation Services, Clovis Funeral Chapel (direct cremation $1,180) and Edward A. Cooper Cremation Society, Inc.